to the graduates! 🎓
Hi!
Happy graduation szn! Congrats to all the grads, you did it!
As I am [redacted] years out, I wanted to share some things I wish I had known back when I first graduated.
Relationships: Know that relationships will change, and that’s okay! Your besties from college might not be your besties for life, but sometimes people have to leave to make space for people who are more suited for you. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people, it just means they weren’t in it for the long haul. Take time to mourn the end of a friendship. Sometimes friendship breakups are just as (or even harder) than romantic breakups. But after some time, wish them well and keep it movin’.
Money: Spending your hard-earned paycheck on going out, expensive meals out, or on things you might not need can be tempting, but it’s important to consider where your money is going. Are you spending money because you want to, or are you spending money just to keep up with the Joneses? Do you need to buy that new outfit or should you instead put that money towards a rainy day fund? I once went on a two-day trip to Talladega because my friends coerced me into going. Needless to say, I could have died never having gone to a NASCAR race.
Mental Health: Be kind to your mind! The transition out of college can be difficult, so if you’re struggling, don’t fret, it’s completely normal. Let’s face it, change is hard, but what has helped me is being vulnerable with others when I’m struggling. Talking to loved ones can provide a sense of closeness and connection so many of us are missing in today’s world, and it’s important to remember you’re not alone in your feelings. Also, having a self-care routine is essential, such as journaling, therapy, spending time in nature, getting in movement, and practicing mindfulness.
Friendships: Prioritizing friendships has been the cornerstone and best part of my 20s. If you want to go on dates, go for it! But just remember that your friends will be there for you before, during, and after a romantic relationship. Don’t be that person who ditches their friends when they get into a relationship.
Hobbies: This is the freshman year of the real world. Try not to get stuck in the cycle of work – scroll on phone – sleep every day. Instead, find a hobby that interests you. What were the activities you did as a kid that made you happy? Try to do one activity after work that can help you have more of a work-life balance. Some days you’ll just need to rot and that’s completely okay, but other days push yourself to do something that will fill up your cup.
Work: Have boundaries at work and don’t let your boss take advantage of you. Unfortunately, some people use their seniority and power to control and manipulate you. So instead of seeing your boss as the Reverend Mother, find a mentor who you can trust and confide in. Also, if you need to change jobs for your mental health, that is so valid and admirable in my eyes. Life is too short to work yourself to the bone for a business that doesn’t care if you live or die.
Lastly, remember that the path isn’t linear. You may feel pressured by your friends’ achievements/salary/positions, but remember you have your own timeline. Someone else’s success isn’t your failure, and surrounding yourself with successful and hardworking people can inspire and motivate you too!
Good luck, and if you need anything – shoot me an email. <3
Xo,
Emily
